Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Family dispute! Help us solve it!?

I moved back in with my parents almost a year ago, and I started a garden last Summer. I chose an area in our yard that was covered with weeds, grass and plants with thorns. I cleared it all out, weeded it and used the Garden Claw to clear the land so I could plant a nice vegetable garden. After I had done this, my Mom saw how nice it was and decided to plant raspberry bushes in it, which anyone from New England knows will spread and kill the surrounding plants. Soon after this, a blackberry bush started growing right in the center of my garden. However, my mother refused to let me take it out, and it killed my cucumbers and squash. Now, I'm starting to plan my garden for next season. I suggested that I take half the garden (the half with the blackberry bush) and clear it out to use, but she refuses to let me kill the blackberry plant that took over my garden. Furthermore, I think she's planning to use the space that I cleared myself last year. Who thinks this is fair??????


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Family dispute! Help us solve it!?
It doesn't sound fair, but it is her house and yard. However, if handed lemons, then make lemonade. Just clear another space and let your Mom have the other. You both could enjoy gardening together that could have a very nice impact on your relationship. Plus, if she's not charging rent, it's a no brain-er. Otherwise, don't sweat the small stuff, and let her win this one.
Reply:start over in a totally different spot and hope your mom stops acting like a control freak. ( sorry mom if you are reading this but most parents would be happy to let their kids have space for a vegetable garden, you could always replant your bush somewhere else)
Reply:Well, I don't think it is very fair, but point blank, your mother owns the land, not you and she'll ultimately win. Let her have her space and move on to another one in the yard, she cannot take them all. Pick your battles wisely, because living at home can be rough at times.
Reply:hey...it's her house. Just to keep the peace, find another place for your garden.
Reply:No, it is not fair but it is her garden. Perhaps she would let you choose another area of the garden where you can have your vegetable garden instead? Ask your Mom about that.
Reply:This is hella unfair





Take it out anyway





She's being a b*tch
Reply:that sucks.. just try to sit down with her and explain that you were the one that cleaned up the area. and that you guys chould make it a family thing.. she will have half and you will have the other half... if she doesn't wanna do that then make another garder elsewhere and tell her not to touch it.


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