Why am i confused?

Okay from tha moment my b/f and i hooked up we set our likes and dislikes out on the table. i made it clear to him that i dont care for people who smoke weed. and yes he said it done it once or twice in tha past. well today he tell me he need weed in his life. so we fought about it and i even tried to break up with him but its HARD. i love him and i never imagine that we will lose each other ova something thats stupid. so i gave him a chose its out of me or tha weed!!!!!! should i be upset when he give me his answer and its not me? he say i'm always tryna control him but i'm only lookin' out for him and out future together. at this point i really dont know what to do. i dont wanna live him, and i do wanna help him with hard times but i dont want him to try to run ova me. but as of now i need some me time to get myself together but.................. damn i'm confused ans somone HELP me PLEASE. WHAT WOULD U DO IF IT WAS U?

Why am i confused?
So far you have handled the situation very well.You were quite frank and expressed your likes and dislikes to your boy friend.But the most important dislikes you mentioned to him is that you dont care for people who smoke weed.He also agreed to it.So both of you are committed. But now he wants to have his weed.Its going against the committment.


When one of the partners goes back on his word or committment then he has his priority else where.In your case its the weed over you.I think he was all along using you.Now he feels bored and want to have his way.I know you are upset and let down by him.


If he loves you so much he will definitely choose you.BUT dont get upset if he chooses weed.Be prepared for this answer as he is slowly blaming the situation on you and that you are controlling him.It happens when two people are in love you dont find fault in each other.But now he says you are dominating him.I can understand how you feel about him and working towards future together.


Dont get upset infact you should just walk out on him.You deserve some one better in life,caring and sharing your love.He is definitely not your man and he just used you.


If i was you i will certainly end my relationship with him.No use feeling bad or getting emotional over that person once you know that he has used you and not reciprocating your love.Have self respect and dont let him get the better of you emotionally.You have honoured your part of committment but he did not.So the price he has to pay is lose you and your love.


Dont be confused.Take control of yourself.Go for a vacation and unwind.Just chill.Come back with a vengeance and proove to your boyfriend what he has missed out in life.Make him regret for choosing that stupid weed.Stop thinking about the past.It will not do any good to you.Think of the future.You are a very loving and kind person,matured and a lady with self respect.Definitely you will come out with flying colours.Just work hard towards your career, motivate yourself and raise your will power and you will definitely succeed."JUST DO IT".Good luck for your career and future.Hope you get a really loveable boyfriend worthy of your love.
Reply:I was in that situation in a way. I was going with probably the most wonderful woman I have ever met. The only thing was we were both casual drinkers. Her drinking got out of hand and I asked her to slow down. She didn't and I told her that I would not live with someone that drinks that heavy. She opted for the booze instead of me so I left. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but I would not live like that. I don't think two consecutive days have gone by that I didn't think of her but I have a right to what I want out of life and a relationship and so do you. Best of luck.
Reply:whats the trouble with a little weed among friends !!!!!!!!!!